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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My concern is that I wouldn’t return to work. [b]There’s no easy time to work or return to work [/b]arguably leaving a young baby can be just as difficult as leaving a 3 or 4 year old. The women I’ve known who took time off spent years out of the workforce and struggled to return or never did. There was always an excuse about why they can’t work and it’s possible they needed to justify it. I think it put their families at a disadvantage and[b] they incorrectly thought it was better for their children. [/b]

It’s also not considering that working is fairly easy. We’ve never lived in a safer world or had easier jobs. Someone 100 years ago would be shocked you can sit in a climate controlled office and use a computer and earn a six figure salary with paid vacation, healthcare, retirement savings etc. I personally have a difficult time passing this up. [/quote]

1. FWIW I found it pretty easy to return to work when my kids were in K and 2nd grade. They didn't do intensive activities, actually WANTED to go to the elementary extended day because all their friends were going, and our ES happened to cater more to working parents (little call for volunteers and events we were expected at were nearly always in the evenings). Once they got to middle school there were more after school activities + concerns about what they might get up to without supervision. So, then DH was able to shift to working at home most of the time.

2. I stayed home because it was better for ME, not the kids. I knew plenty of families who were using nannies/daycare and their kids were fine but their parents seemed so stressed out. One friend who had a bad commute would call her husband before she left the office so she could hear the baby and beg him to try to keep him awake for her to see when she got home. Watching other working parents it did not seem to be a life I wanted if I had another option. In today's remote workplace I think it's a lot more likely I'd have continued working FT. My FT working mom colleagues with little children seem to have much better work/life balance than I did 20 years ago.

I would consider a wide range of options in the context of your specific career and the kind of life you want to live. There's no right answer and for most it will change over time.[/quote]

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