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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, you going to them, once a year should be a minimum. Just you. Since they are seeing the children regularly I'd put the children in the same category as your husband  - once every few years. His stay can be brief.

Once they are too old to travel you will need to be the one to make sure they see the grandchildren several times a year - you and the kids traveling TO them, whether you like it or not.[/quote]

But why though? It sounds like they were not particularly good parents to OP.  Their visits aren’t enjoyable for anyone. Why should she be obligated to give them access to her kids several times a year when her parents get too old to travel?? I grew up across the country from my dad’s parents and only saw them a few times in my entire life. Neither were very present in my dad’s child hood - he was mostly raised by a slew of nannies. They were never nice to us the few times we made the trek, and my life wasn’t any worse off for not having a relationship with them.

I have a parent now who has a terminal illness and hasn’t been able to travel for many years. I do bring my kids to visit severe times a year, because my parents were wonderful to me, so great with my kids, and we all like spending time together. We visit because we want to, not out of a sense of obligation. [/quote]

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