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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We don't know whether there was an agreement for him to stay home.  Maybe he effed around during HS and did not get in to any 4 year colleges or didn't apply and community college was his last resort.  I wouldn't want my 18 year old thinking that he or she would have resources without earning them.  [/quote]

I wanted to address this comment, as well as a few others.

Actually, my son did very well in high school and had a 3.5 grade point average with half of his classes Honors or AP. He did get into each of the four schools he applied to, but they were all out of state and I told him that he would have to take out a student loan if he chose to go to school out of state. We discussed the community college option and getting his core courses out of the way much cheaper and then he can go away his junior and senior years. He agreed that was a better option financially.

As far as the cleanliness part, his definition of cleaning and mine are totally different, which I understand and do not expect him to clean the way I do. He is busy during the week and does his "cleaning" on Saturday or Sunday around his work hours.

He and his stepfather have never really had that great of a relationship and my husband seems determined to keep him in his place and make sure he knows who is the man of the house. My husband seems to be jealous of my relationship with my son and thinks he should just be out of the house simply because he's 18. He's from a different country and was brought up differently than me, so maybe that's where his way of thinking comes in.

A decision still has not been made because I don't want to make a decision that goes against what my husband decides. I did tell my son that even before making a decision, he needs to continue the weekly cleaning but do a better job at making sure things are really clean. I still have to discuss things with my husband and figure out what the best option for everyone would be.[/quote]

Please do not let your son down, op. Your husband sounds like a major asshole.[/quote]

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