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[quote=Anonymous]Recent studies do show higher rates of divorce for people who co-habitat before marriage. The reason is that they 'slid' into marriage vs 'deciding' to marry. Look Sliding vs Deciding.

If you move in because it will save money or it's more conventient or something similar, you are more likely to be unsure of where the relationship is going. It's easier to stay in it rather than breaking up. So after some time, it's just easier to get married "because it's the next step" or "it's time"
These are the ones most likely to get divorced. There were cracks, but the cracks weren't big enough to overcome inertia of staying together (and the PIA of breaking up)

What has lower divorce rates are relationships that move in together with marriage in mind. They have discussed what moving in together means and when the next steps will take place. They understand that living together isn't just for convenience, but an important step before marriage. 
Marriage is a conscious decision, vs just sliding into it because it's convenient.

Are there some marriages that survive even though they 'slid' into it? Yes
Are there some marriage that divorce even though they 'decided'? Yes

But studies show over all the divorce rate is higher in the sliding relationships.[/quote]

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