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You need to spend more time being okay with and by yourself before you get into a relationship, OP. You seem incredibly needy, and it's nobody's job to take care of you, please you, support you, etc. As for what kind of person he was as a partner: smart enough to dump someone who started giving ultimatums that kept him from his friends after a brief 2 month courtship, but he might not have dumped you if you hadn't basically asked for it by all-but-dumping him first. He may or may not have been sincere, but you weren't. You weren't at all interested in a relationship, you were interested in "being loved" according to some weird, delusional metric that seems to equate to "I get my way all the time or he doesn't love me."

I'm glad he left you. Good for him. While he may not have been perfect, as a simple human being, he deserved better than this crazy mess!

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And what kind of person was he? A selfish prick with no concern for the other's feelings & no respect, who treats a woman he's been seeing for 4 months like his girlfriend but with no title, dangling it in front of her like a carrot. If he cannot sacrifice from time to time to calm his girl then what does it say about his feelings for me? What kind of man puts their friends first? One who treats a girl as a matter of convenience rather than a serious partner.[/quote]

This is the most obscene projection of your own morals/standards onto another human being. Even the OP makes it clear that at no point in time did this guy call her his GF, and he repeatedly indicated, and outright stated, that they were not BF/GF. That she wanted it to be so doesn't make it so; he gets to have this little thing called "agency" over his own life, and he's not required to be her BF just because she wants it. Which is pretty much the entire theme of Veruca's rant here: she wants what she wants and she wants it now, or she's going to scream, flounce, unfriend, and otherwise act like a whiny brat.

"If he cannot sacrifice from time to time to calm his girl" OP is not his girl, and he's made that quite clear. She's "a girl", not his betrothed or some other delulu romance novel nonsense.

"What kind of man puts their friends first?" Was OP in labor or some other detail I missed?  :lol:

If this is you, OP (and it sure sounds like your whinging): flip your script. What kind of girlfriend makes this many demands on a man she allegedly loves? What kind of woman feels entitled to control a man's friendships instead of controlling her own emotions? What kind of woman uses a status the man has already expressed a lack of interested in as a moldy carrot, and then claims he's gay when he won't jump through her hoops?

"A selfish prick with no concern for the other's feelings & no respect" indeed. One who treats a man as an object of servitude rather than a serious partner.

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