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[quote=Anonymous]God, I don't miss my 20s AT. ALL.   :lol:

Okay, you both sound stupid immature, but... The teal deer is this: you can only control yourself. So if you want more time than he's offering, there's your answer. Move on and find someone more compatible with your wants/needs.

The longer answer is: you both sound trainwrecky. "with drinking and a club included like they’ve been doing for years" he's 20? For years? Like, I remember my 20s, kinda... this isn't healthy behavior. "tempting circumstances to cheat" Sweetie, people who aren't cheaters can't be tempted, and people who cheat don't need temptation. He's either loyal or he's not; nobody manipulates you into cheating if you have standards (which, at 20, maybe they're not fully formed yet).

"We had sex after 2 months and he took my virginity. The sex happened only 2 times throughout the relationship (I was being cautious)." Virginity is a stupid concept, though I recognize it may have made this person seem more special to you than he actually is. He's just a guy, it's just a dick, this isn't magic.

"Personally it’s also too long for me to be left for 2 weeks. A few days is fine but not that long." What are you, a houseplant?  :lol: You need your own life, not some man to make demands of. Care about yourself and you'll be fine for an entire single lifetime. God forbid your future spouse (if any) is ever deployed...

You need to spend more time being okay with and by yourself before you get into a relationship, OP. You seem incredibly needy, and it's nobody's job to take care of you, please you, support you, etc. As for what kind of person he was as a partner: smart enough to dump someone who started giving ultimatums that kept him from his friends after a brief 2 month courtship, but he might not have dumped you if you hadn't basically asked for it by all-but-dumping him first. He may or may not have been sincere, but you weren't. You weren't at all interested in a relationship, you were interested in "being loved" according to some weird, delusional metric that seems to equate to "I get my way all the time or he doesn't love me."

And this is disgustingly homophobic: "I had several other remarks about some of his behaviors and he usually apologized. I suspected him of being gay (he wasn’t very affectionate and he had some feminine mannerisms). We talked it out and he said he was straight."

I'm glad he left you. Good for him. While he may not have been perfect, as a simple human being, he deserved better than this crazy mess!

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