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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents have need to see multiple doctors, but at some point the relationship always goes south. They claim the doctor wants to be rid of them/ is only after their money etc. 
My mother has medical anxiety and does go to doctors over and over again so I can see how this is happening. But it's exhausting to hear that yet another doctor 'doesn't know what they are talking about' and 'just wants to get rid of us' and 'is just after the money'. 
what is this and any advice?[/quote]

OP, I'm guessing it's a combination of the medical anxiety, and possibly some age-related mental issues. Maybe denial (of whatever their medical situation is).

While my parents generally get along well with their drs, my Mom in particular (Dad had cognitive decline so wasn't as cognizant) will literally recall the visit differently than it actually occured, which I realized when I started to attend a few visits. Mom was in denial of Dad's situations (parkinsons which progressed to death) and just did not internalize stuff she didn't want to hear. Long story short, OP, if you can attend a few visits with them, you can see how they interact and how the Drs interact with them and where the facts of the situation are.

True, some drs can be dismissive, but at least in my folks' case- it was them.[/quote]
You should order the patient encounter notes, you might be shocked to find a third version of events exist, one that doesn't match what actually happened.[/quote]

PP here -I don't think that's necessary in my folks case. I was relating the story because the op's parents reminded me some of mine, except mine were probably less aggressive about it. It would probably be helpful to the op if they go to a few appointments with their parents to get a feel for what's actually going on.[/quote]

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