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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is it wrong to think less of, or even dislike your sibling who has amply time and opportunity, but who just can’t be bothered to lift a finger to help an aging and infirm parent? I mean literally, just does nothing at all and couldn’t care less. Would it be justifiable to just not like that sibling anymore?[/quote]

Yes definately acceptable.

Have a similar sibling.  We all live 1K-3K from parents.  I do all the helping.  Sibling works job and gets summers off (no summer job).  8 years ago, parents were visiting me, one fell and broke hip, after 2 weeks with me we had a vacation planned (and could not cancel---had to pay for it all), sibling refused to come and assist (despite me offering to pay all expenses, they just had to come for 5 days)---sibling had no job commitment, just their own "personal activities".  So I had to cancel vacation and take care of parent.  They refused to help their own parents.

That was the final straw in difficult dealings with that sibling.  Parents know I'm the one responsible for helping them and know that kid wont do anything.  I no longer talk to that sibling.  Sick of them being so self centered and ungrateful (it was years leading up to this, this was just the final---WTF moment of them being unwilling to help).

So yes, it's perfectly acceptable to cut people out of your life who add no value and only add extra stress.

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So many people here choose to be martyrs. Why did you have to cancel your plans? Did your parent not have any other care? Were they in the hospital? Was the other parent there? Coud you not arrange for other care? Elderly parents do not need to be babied every single day of their lives. So many people come here hating on their siblings for doing as much as they do, but I always have to ask: why do you think you have to provide company for your parent every single day? I believe it's so you can hold something over your sibling. Get over it. Everybody has their reasons. Be more respectful of those.[/quote]

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