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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your friend does not have PTSD because of you.  She has PTSD because of the trauma she went through with her husband.  You may have brought some of her PTSD symptoms to the forefront for a time, but you didn't cause the PTSD.  Or, since you say that her symptom is sadness, which would be a normal reaction to finding out someone you care about is sick, it may have just brought up her own feelings of grief.

I have the same kind of medical PTSD from my child's illness and death.  If I was your friend, I would still want to be there for you.  One of the ways I can remember my son and feel like his life had meaning is in using what I learned to help others, even if I feel sad in the process.  But that's me, I would suggest you talk to your friend and say "I am sure that Larlo's news brought up some hard memories for you. Would you prefer I sought other support?"  Another thing that helps is if people are thoughtful about when they talk to me about it.  So, say "I'd love to get your wisdom on something, when can we talk?"  so I can say "I'm about to drive the kids somewhere, can I call when I get home?" and not deal with an emotional tsunami right before carpool.  [/quote]

This is such a good and wise response.

OP, I’m sorry for your husband’s diagnosis. And PP, I am so sorry for your loss.[/quote]

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