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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You aren’t explaining why you didn’t step up to coach. Count yourself lucky if your kid is 11 and this is the first time you experience this.

My kid was 6 when on his first rec basketball team the coach and assistant coach’s kids played almost the entire game. Then they would put rotate three 7 year olds for the next two spots. My son and 3 other 6 year olds had to play paper rocks and scissors to choose who went in. One game my son kept losing paper rocks and scissors so he played for about 2 minutes. I called the ymca and said the sign ups said everyone plays. They said sorry they would talk to the coach but I said just give me a refund because I knew not much would change. [/quote]

OP here. I guess we have been lucky up to this point. We have always had positive experiences in rec leagues. We have never encountered an unfair coach, and, in soccer, I would never consider giving my daughter more time than others. If anything, I tend to go in the opposite direction, giving her slightly less than her fair-share of playing time, because I don't want to create the appearance that I am playing favorites.

For the record, I checked the box "are you willing to coach if we need more coaches?".  As it turned out, they didn't need more coaches. But I don't understand what this has to do with the price of tea in china. The question is this: what should coaches in rec leagues be aiming for in terms of allocating minutes?

It seems like plenty of people have had bad experiences -- have you tried to do anything about this? Any conversations with the coach? [/quote]

Honestly you have been incredibly lucky. I wrote about my 6 year old. Nothing changed even after I spoke to the league and two other parents complained. Over the years my son in different sports the majority of the times the coach's kid get by far the most playing time and the best positions. One year my son as a 9 year old was playing rec soccer and kicked the ball into the goal. It hit the goalie in the face and the kid got a bloody nose. That kid's dad was furious with my son. No idea why since that is the point of the game. My son wasn't right next to the goal or goalie. His son just reacted in slow motion so the ball hit his face. My son later scored two goals. Two months later I sign my son up for basketball and that kid's dad is the coach. His son played point guard even though he was awful and my son sat. If he went in and tried to steal a ball or pop off his player to steal the ball the coach would yell at my son. He didn't want my son stealing and making a fast break down the court to score. It was ridiculous. He basically wanted my kid to be on the bench or standing in a corner of the court not involved in any way.

There is no having a conversation with the coach that works in these cases. Just try to be positive and stop timing. It will just drive you crazy. Go in thinking whatever playing time your kid gets, she gets and hope that a bunch of kids don't show. In the case of the coach who really didn't like my kid, a couple of games I texted another player's mom and asked how many players were there. If it was the full bench we didn't get out the car and just went to do something else because it was so demoralizing. It was really noticeable by others who were puzzled because my kid is a respectful kid who is really easy to coach. [/quote]

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