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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Look, a symptom of unhappiness is the belief that it has been this way “forever.” It’s not necessarily true. He’s interpreting a story based on the present moment.

It is unusual he is asking to go to counseling. It could be a great sign. It could also be that there’s something going on he’s scared to tell you. Men having affairs often claim they have “been unhappy a long time.” It’s a cliche.[/quote]

DP.  This makes sense to me.  I work with a lot of people who are chronically suicidal, and they will tell me that they are “always” thinking about suicide.  But when I probe further, usually they can articulate something like, “The last time I really thought about suicide was yesterday at 3pm when I brought dinner to my mom’s house and she made a snide remark.”

Counseling might be really helpful, OP.  My guess is that you are not the cause of 100% of every unhappy moment he has had, and you are probably the cause of a lot of really happy ones too.    
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