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[quote=Anonymous]We need to stop trying to be responsible for other people’s decisions.  OP- you guided your daughter in a way where you honestly thought the best course of action was but it didn’t work out like you expected.  She still made the decision to do whatever she did.  And PP with the mom- your mom is a grown woman and unless she was cognitively unable to make an informed decision about her leg you can only do what you can do.

My mom tore her rotator cuff several years ago and got surgery but absolutely refused to listen to anyone about letting it heal.  Not me, not the PT, not the doctor.  The doctor finally gave up and told her that he did his job well and if she didn’t follow through with the recommendations after surgery it would never heal properly and her arm would end up basically useless in addition to painful.  My mom knew better and finally told me that she understood the consequences, her body “healed faster” than everyone else and she didn’t believe the doctor and thought he was exaggerating.  So I let her be.  And guess what, her shoulder never healed, it causes her daily pain and she likes fo complain about it constantly.  At the time she was fully cognizant.  Her body, her choice.  Sometimes people need to take responsibility for themselves.

Bottom line OP, whatever path she ends up on is the path she was meant to be on.  You can’t take responsibility for that.[/quote]

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