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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Relationships are A LOT of work. I have friends who think it’s easier to cut people off. It’s up to you and how you feel fulfilled.

If one is fragile/i’ll equipped, one may not be able to handle complicated or flawed people [/quote]

Having or not having a relationship with these people is different than forgiveness. I forgave my mother for what she did to me as a child; her continued behaviour meant that I had to set clear and consistent boundaries in the present. The two things are separate.

Forgiveness is understanding you literally cannot change the past as no one is magical. Boundaries are protecting your future. Both can be done kindly to yourself.[/quote]

Forgiveness is also about the future though.  It’s a promise to yourself that you won’t allow the painful feelings this person brought up for you to continue to bring you pain.  It’s a promise you make to yourself for the future - NO MORE.  I’m releasing that from my mental space from now on, as best I can.  A boundary can be part of that future and how you manage to maintain that peace.[/quote]

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