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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My SO and I are long distance (for now) and she drove back home last night because she was starting her new job the next day. I helped her load up her car, kissed her, then said, “good luck tomorrow. Let me know how it goes”. Now she and her team got laid off about a year ago, and although she worked on short stint contracts this is the first FTE she’s had since so I knew she’s was anxious. Anyways, I just went about my day and didn’t contact her because I knew she was working. She called me an hour ago and asked why I didn’t contact her and ask her how things went or wish her good luck. I told her because I just said that to her the day before. She looked both kind of annoyed and disappointed (we were on FaceTime).

Am I missing something here?[/quote]

As always, this is about communication. It NEVER hurts to ask "How do you want me to handle this?" ... You've probably experienced this before (e.g. SO comes home from work and spews a lot of complaints. Does your SO just want to vent, or do they want advice? did you ask? Did you guess? did you do the right thing?)

So ask. Do they want to talk to you at breakfast before work? Or a check-in at lunch? or maybe after the day is over. NEVER assume you know what they want. This goes for men and women both.

And now that you guys are long distance this is DOUBLEY important. Check in, ask what your SO wants, and then give it to them. That simple. Don't assume that what you'd want (not being bothered) is what they want.

So sit down on FT tonight and have a conversation.[/quote]

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