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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not trying to be mean, but OP in this post you don't seem that likeable or charming to me. So maybe your DS is superior to you in ways you don't appreciate.

Lots of middle school boys are just getting by. It's a great thing that he likes to read. That bodes well for his academic career.

It's striking to me that you seem to hold your DS to a higher standard than you hold yourself. If being special is so important to you, why aren't you more disappointed in yourself? Why is all your disappointment directed at DS, while you pat yourself on the back for not accomplishing much but being "the smartest person in the room?"  :roll:

I think a little self-reflection is in order here, OP.[/quote]

You are definitely on to something here.

First, my goal here is not to be likeable. Being likeable is important at school or work or when you are trying to get something out of someone - not even with one’s peers but rather with one’s superiors. That’s what I meant.

Second, yes, I realize I am not accomplished by a conventional measure - not rich and famous. However, I grew up being better than almost everyone at academic things. I should probably remind myself more often that maybe it just was for the lack of competition where I grew up.

Lastly, yes, DS is superior to me in a few ways. He is not a people pleaser. He is very even keeled - I am more anxious. He thinks he is good looking, he is self assured that way - something that I’ve struggled with. I think he has better social standing than I had at his age - my likeabilty was always more about being liked by adults (until I basically taught myself to be universally likeable - well of course not everyone likes me but in general yes). [/quote]

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