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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It might be that as nanny kids get older there are more family demands on nanny time. 
Maybe she needs a new job and you need a new nanny every few years. Or a nanny with no kids or grown kids.[/quote]

Op here. This is the problem though. These are human beings that my kids are deeply attached to and just getting a new nanny every few years I worry is bad for their development. But then I feel a bit like she has me over a barrel and it’s hard to negotiate and hold boundaries.[/quote]

As someone who had a nanny for WAY longer than most people due to a SN child, my input is that you basically need to change Nannie’s about every three years. Everybody just gets way too close and the three year mark is typically when the professional and personal lines get very blurred. It becomes a problem for both parties at that point. Or you have to accept that you essentially have a niece/cousin type person working for you and that each of you have to practice radical acceptance around their other’s flaws. I am similarly incredible generous to my Nannie’s, but I still do things that I’m sure get on their last nerve after three years.[/quote]

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