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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It might be that as nanny kids get older there are more family demands on nanny time. 
Maybe she needs a new job and you need a new nanny every few years. Or a nanny with no kids or grown kids.[/quote]

Op here. This is the problem though. These are human beings that my kids are deeply attached to and just getting a new nanny every few years I worry is bad for their development. But then I feel a bit like she has me over a barrel and it’s hard to negotiate and hold boundaries.[/quote]

Yes, you are correct.  It's not so easy to replace a nanny and your kids will suffer from losing a good one that they're attached to, and there's a lot of costs to onboard a new nanny.  That said, you have not stated that you've addressed the issue very directly.   Yes, your nanny can tell you that her son's sports things mean a great deal to her.  But you need to be an adult and an employer and tell her that she can not continue to work as little as she's been doing and giving the notice that she's giving without doing damage to the work of you and your spouse and ask state very clearly (and in writing if that helps) that she needs to give you X amount of notice and that she's allowed X days of PTO.  Sometimes people don't always realize how much time they're taking. I showed my nanny her attendance record for a brief 6 month period when she had a lot of random days off (we had her for 8 years), and she was embarrassed and her attendance went back to normal.[/quote]

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