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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I feel the same way for my DD. She worked so hard to make honor roll and then overheard some other parents talking about how “you could sleep through your classes and still make honor roll in MCPS.”  It hurts. [/quote]

But it’s not hurtful unless it was said directly to your child. Reality is that there are many kids who can sleep through classes and make honor role. And there are many kids who give it their all and can’t make a grade above a D except in PE. I mean if this is going to hurt your child, imagine how mine, who barely D’d out of HS feels to hear your kid brag about making honor role. [/quote]

You are way off base with this comment.  First of all, it absolutely can be hurtful to my child if she overhears a thoughtless comment made by other parents.  You think it isn't going to make her feel small and inadequate when she is told by her school that she accomplished something worthwhile and then other parents are rolling their eyes and scoffing at how meaningless it is?

And second, I never said my child bragged.  We talk about these things at home, privately, and my DD was told at school that she made Honor Roll.

And I do think about how these things feel for all kids.  I think about it all the time, because I have a child with special needs and most of her cohort also has special needs.  It's a daily part of my life.  And I work hard to celebrate all of the kids and never ever stick my foot in my mouth the way many parents gleefully do in our area.[/quote]

That is a ridiculous standard. No one should ever make a comment that could be overheard by someone who might be offended or hurt by it?!  The comment wasn’t made to put anyone down and isn’t thoughtless.  It’s a true statement for some. People really need to figure out how not to victimize themselves or their kids. [/quote]

DP. Stop with the faux outrage and defense of the statement. It is not true that 'many' students sleep thru classes and make the honor role. The overheard comment was said to diminish the recognition of honor roll.

You do not get to tell someone how they feel when something is said within their hearing that diminishes or disparaged them. [/quote]

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