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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a friend who has this with his wife who didn’t want to work even after the kids were in full time school and he was going crazy hours and traveling and wanted to pull back. They are room mate situation till the youngest graduates then the plan is divorce (they both agree). Ironically she has had to find a job anyway bc she won’t get alimony where they live unless she has a job too. Is kind of a shame she didn’t just do it earlier but could have made no difference also [/quote]

I don’t understand why some people (men or women) think it’s ok to just drop the financial burden squarely on the other spouse. Even if one has a lower income potential than the other, it just makes the working spouse feel used if there is no effort at all.[/quote]

Not justifying it… but to play devils advocate… there are situations I’ve seen where the men are more than happy to allow the women to carry the entire burden of taking care of the kids, house, everything when they are young. Then, as the kids get older, they switch it up and think the wife should go back to work. For one thing, it’s not that easy to jump back in when you’ve taken four or five years off, at least in some professions (it is easier in some than in others). Also, once kids are in school, it’s not as if there is absolutely nothing to do kid and house-wise. Some husband don’t understand this and expect the wives to be able to completely handle it all. They don’t understand that if their wives go back to work, as the husband, they will actually have to pick up some extra responsibilities at home themselves, and are resentful when asked to do this. You can’t have it both ways.[/quote]

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