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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think he built off your negativity. His first statement was innocuous but your response might have pushed that conversation in another direction [/quote]

Hmm I can maybe see that.

I’ll give a little more context. The night prior, he had asked me randomly, again for about the fourth time recently would I get consider getting a BBL. He keeps bringing up the plastic surgery on my butt and then he laughs about it and turns around and says “you know I’m just joking”. I told him continuously asking about me getting plastic surgery on my body isn’t funny. Fast forward about 10 minutes later he asked me if I looked at engagement rings to see what style I liked but then laughed and said “or we could just leave our situation the way it is”. Followed by his favorite line, “you know that I’m just joking”. I obviously didn’t laugh. He said he wanted me to be “soft”. I responded that he makes a lot of passive aggressive “jokes” and although we can and should joke with each other, personal jabs aren’t healthy. He said he agreed with me. So when this came up tonight it was kind of like a forehead smack because we had just talked about this the day before. [/quote]

I don't know what his so-called joking is covering up, but if I had to guess, what he says before "I'm just joking" is his truth, and one that he knows you'll disagree with. He wants you to get plastic surgery. He wants to stay single. He thinks you weren't ambitious enough in your job search and just took advantage of the time off.

He sounds kind of like a horrible person. And he doesn't sound like he's ready to be in a real, adult relationship.

I'd tell him that his "jokes" are hurtful, and that from no on, whatever he says before he says he's joking, you're going to take as his truth, and then plan accordingly. (If it were me, I'd already be planning to break it off.)[/quote]

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