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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We had an ES-aged kid burnout on a sport (soccer) mid-year a couple years ago and was getting to the point she was getting turned off from the sport that she previously loved as her favorite. She was occasionally breaking down in tears on practice days and didn't want to go.

We talked about commitment and following through with her, but at same time she was still a single-digit aged kid, so we came what seemed a reasonable compromise of scaling back to just 2 practices per week. But we still went to (almost) all the weekend games, and it helped she was willing to play GK (and was pretty good at it) which gave her teammates more field time, so the club didn't seem to mind. This mostly held up, but towards the end of spring season we scaled even further back to just 1 practice per week because her school started giving more HW and it didn't seem to matter to the club.

She took last year off from organized soccer, but played a lot during school recess, or in backyard with siblings/friends. This year she's back playing club soccer and thriving (albeit with a different club that seems a better fit, the prior one the parents seemed pretty competitive amongst themselves re: positions and playing times, and that trickled down to the kids attitudes towards teammates being more concerned about the "who's better than who" pecking order, rather than a preferred "we're a team trying that's supporting each other's development and trying to win together" attitude).[/quote]

PP, just want to add I also think it depends if the kid really knows/understands what they were signing up for. I don't think our kid really had any way of forecasting the duration or intensity of the schedule for the year, so holding her fully accountable for the "commitment" she made feels a bit unreasonable and punitive. So it's a balance. That said, we made the point before this year that she now knows what's she's getting into, and barring some pretty extenuating circumstances we wouldn't be voluntarily missing practices this year, even if she wasn't enjoying it. She's both a couple years older and has the experience to actually know what she's getting into, so as such we expect her to take more ownership over this decision now.[/quote]

I get this.  I was thinking the question is more about wanting to change clubs.   But if club environment is toxic and/or kid is really overwhelmed /unhappy and doesn’t have a pattern of quitting things, I can see how this sometimes need to be.   At this stage in the season, no one is locked in until you re-sign so this is the time to try to pre-empt something like that with research and open discussion with kid.  If you have any specific questions or concerns as you consider an upcoming year of soccer, I am happy to answer as I can. (Signed, The parent that said be ethical) [/quote]

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