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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh boy, yeah, as a fellow ADHD person this sounds like ADHD + being stretched to me.

Do you think there is an actual racial component to this? It sounds, from your description, that the racial stuff is incidental - and it's more a matter of there happens to be two Black women leading projects you're working on, and two white men who are lawyers at the agency.

I also have trouble with details/mixing stuff up that I would never regularly mix up when I am going through a bad ADHD spell.

It sounds to me like you are taking exactly the right approach - building in levels of fact-checking for yourself. Just be sure every time you send an email that you're triple checking it's the right person you're sending it to.

And also try to breathe. Talk to your therapist if you can. You didn't commit a crime, the person who talked to you still wants to work with you, people make mistakes, you are not a bad person - or a racist (I don't think). You made some easy to make mistakes that did not lead to anything catastrophic or, you're aware, you're making efforts not to repeat those mistakes. You're human! [/quote]

Op here. I think eveyone has biases and that people can do things that are racist (or that show their bias) without being a racist person. Our training (which I actually used to be involved in) prompts us to ask “what if” in these situations. So, while I certainly don’t want to be / intend to be / think of myself as racist, I also think it’s possible there’s a race element here and that I have an unconscious bias. I truly don’t know if my brain is grouping people by “same team / same role” or race / age or something else. An area where I’m really struggling too is that one of my highest performing areas typically is really getting to know people as individuals and then leveraging those strengths. For years I’ve received comments about how well I get to know and help to motivate my team members. I’ve even won awards along those lines. So it’s really hard to feel like I’m not performing well in an area where I’m typically strong. [/quote]

This crazy woman totally overreacted. You should have never apologized because you did nothing wrong. Report her to HR.[/quote]

How did she overreact? There was no punishment, no consequences. Just 'hey don't do it again, someone else might think badly of you.'

And it's true - she is making mistakes. "Nothing wrong" ?? She's emailing the wrong person! Pay attention! [/quote]

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