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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]XDH was a foreign service brat who grew up in several countries. It was great in terms of exposure to other cultures and learning foreign languages.

The one big drawback is that he and his sister are so used to moving that they think any personal or professional problem (and he had a lot of professional problems) can be solved by relocating every few years. As a therapist told him, you need to find a way to be happy where you are. [/quote]

This is fascinating to me. I grew up in the exact opposite environment, an isolated community and there was no way to escape. Even my first summer jobs in high school, you were physically committed for 2-3 months, there was no physical way to get out short of a medical emergency requiring medevac heroics.  "Walking away" just wasn't an option. As a result, I think I've put up with a lot more than I probably should have - my default is to just bear through it, expecting things will turn out OK one way or another. I've held onto many jobs that others have walked away from. I'm in my mid forties and still working for the same company I started with out of college, and my one sibling is also working for the same company since college. And things have generally worked out - I'm happy in my job now - but I can't help wondering if I'd be better off if I'd made a move at some point in the last 20+ years?

But I've also known and worked with people like your DH - they are going to be unhappy wherever they are.  Count on 2-3 years at any job, max, and then they'll move on, saying how horrible that company or situation was. It's always the company's fault, never theirs.

There has to be a happy medium. I don't think my way is 100% healthy, nor is your DH's.[/quote]

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