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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"Don't want the one kid to feel financially responsible for the other..."

This can be a nightmare and I'd not put that burden on the sibling. All that happens is they get thrust into the role of a parent, with an added helping of the challenged sibling's anger and resentment thrown in for good measure.

My parents left money (some in a trust) for my challenged sibling. The small amount of money he had immediately available he blew through in two months' time.

I had to administer the trust. He would frequently call me IRATE that I wouldn't give him "his" money.  It was no picnic and it's not a job I'd want any sibling to do for another. 
This went on for years.  A cloud over MY head - the responsible one.

Then he reached middle age and he was allowed the balance of the trust. He also blew through that in no time.

Now he is elderly and I'm still looking out for him financially. There is not a lot of government help for poor, elderly people so I have wound up subsidizing his basic living expenses - out of my pocket.

If I did not, he would literally be living in a tent at the side of the road. 
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It is unfortunate your parents set up the trust to give the balance of the trust to your brother at any age. Thanks to my prodding, my middle sister with a mental illness had a special needs trust in place when my parents died. My BIL is working with my oldest sister to only provide her with a set amount every month which supplements her government benefits but does not disqualify her from those benefits. Middle sister is irate at the limitations but has no choice but to accept it. [/quote]

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