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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you have a close group of friends?[/quote]

I have some close friends, yes. I can talk to them about serious things and they are there for me if I ask. But I think I self-selected for the people in my life to be kind of self-contained and not the sort to overtly care for friends. Again, because earlier in adulthood I found that behavior so foreign I didn't trust it. I assumed if someone was very caring towards me, it was a lie. I now understand it's not that. I do have one friend who was like that towards me early in our friendship but learned not to be that way because it made me edgy and she respected my boundaries (a great friend!).

But I'm in a different place now and wish I had this experience but it's like a prior version of me arranged my life to ensure no one else takes care of me. I don't know how to undo that.[/quote]

You treat others how you wish to be treated. If you want them to show up for you, you show up for them. Also, you're not too old to make new friends - so you could start new friendships with your new set of values and that might be a bit easier. Take a weekly class, volunteer for an hour a week, etc. [/quote]

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