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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^ my husband was poor with a single mom working two jobs.

He wouldn’t even dare a woman without a career.  He is very attractive, fit and highly intelligent.
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For us, intelligence and wit is a turn on as is pulling your weight in an egalitarian household.  
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His mom was a feminist.  All women in my UMC family always had a career age the men were very involved in family life. My dad was a fabulous cook and coached all of our teams.  [/quote]

I married a man who was happy if I stayed home after we were married BEFORE we even had kids.  We are both from UMC families and this just wasn’t my family’s modus operandi.  He wanted kids right away after we got married and I told him he was crazy and that I didn’t get a Ph.D. to be a baby breeder.  He knew who he married and fully understood this.  I first wanted to be settled in a career, live in a nice well put together home, and have travelled the world.  Six years later after we did all those things we had our first.  We got a full time nanny and had a housekeeper.  Three more kids and 22 years later we are still very happily married.  And I contribute about half of our 800k income each year.

OP - these guys exist.  I know several of them.  You meet them when YOU are in graduate, medical, or law school.  The catch is - they RARELY marry women who just want the lifestyle - actually I don’t know any who married such a woman, although some of the women ended up as SAHMs, it wasn’t the initial plan they had.[/quote]

yep. we married at 28 and waited 7 years to have our two kids (healthy, normal pregnancies, no fertility issues).  25 years later--two homes in two of the best DMV neigbhorhoods paid off.  Oldest headed to private college next year. We both WAH. I was able to WAH from the time my first child was born due to having 10-years in the office and seniority.

I have close to $2.5 million in my own retirement account (and that doesn't include our other IRAs, investment savings and the $1.3 million accrued in home equity since we bought both homes.

It feels safe.  My mom and dad taught us to always have our own income because you never know what life will throw at you. My sister has 3 kids and worked part-time until her youngest was in HS and then ramped it up to full-time prior to retirement. I was lucky with my WAH and flexibility--once my kids hit pre-school I didn't need a nanny/daycare, etc.  I had a husband that was equally involved.[/quote]

$2.8 million in home equity...meant the appreciation was $1.3 million.[/quote]

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