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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Please make sure you have your own retirement savings. So many women I know were SAHMs until divorce happened. [/quote]

I spent years working in domestic violence advocacy (no, it's not all physical - there are many situations where the violence is coercive control and financial abuse) and also in family law, and I saw many, many women lose nearly everything in midlife when children were grown and husband dumped them for a younger model. Even those who worked often worked much lower paying, flexible jobs while being primary parent and no, in the real family courts of America with working and middle class people getting divorced, there is not a big settlement of alimony and assets - there is an assignment of debts, possibly selling the family home, and two people walking away to start over with only one of them having the earning power to live really decently.

Women who eschew a solid career with potential to earn retirement etc. are taking a very big gamble. Many of the marriages that do persist are miserable, but a lot of women choose that over poverty in their middle and elder years. [/quote]

^ that happened to my neighbor who was a SAHM and caught cheating at 50.  Lost everything and no job prospects.[/quote]

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