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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There are so, so many stories about the strife between mothers and what I assume are daughters here. 
As a man, I have always been perplexed by the push and pull that seems to exist between daughters and moms. It's like they both thrive on making each other happy, and yet also thrive on making each other miserable. 
I have two brothers, a sister,  and a brother in law, and we have something in common: while we don't ignore our mothers and we love them, we give them attention on our terms not theirs. 
You know what the result is? For the men, our moms want to please us. They want more attention then we are willing to give, but they have come to accept that we aren't going to call every day. We aren't going to return texts with lightning speed. We aren't going to cave when our mothers try to guilt trip us.
My wife and sister, on the other hand, go out of their way to please our their respective mothers. They shower them with affection, they cater to their whims, they indulge them even when they are nasty, and they wind up wondering why our moms seem to crave the male's affection more than theirs. 
I wonder if anyone else sees this dynamic and, even moreso, if moms with both sons and daughters feel the same way about their boys[/quote]

You're completely off base. There are so many studies, articles etc about this that it is disappointing to see this kind of garbage posted regularly in this decade.

Because you have a penis, you get a pass from men and women on the work of relationship maintenance. There are a lot of things  that people won't expect of you because you have a penis and none of those things are a natural result of having a penis although people will try to say that it is. You didn't just decide to play the game this way. You were [i]allowed[/i] to play this way and it was assumed from the outset that you would be this way. It's called sexism and it is alive and well today.

Women who try this "don't try to please" approach are called horrible names and told there are serious things wrong with them. Women who do this are treated very differently from men who do this. Again, sexism.

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