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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Bring them. The sibling has said will take care of them, why would you deprive sibling and parents.
It will be regrets later.[/quote]

Sibling and wife work full-time, eventually they'll want me to take parents to my house once parents can't care for themselves as I work part time and from home. [/quote]

Let me guess. You are the daughter of the family?

Your brother may be a physician but he's planning on using you. What are his plans when they can no longer live in your home? Some adult kids don't have it in them to put their parents in a care home of any kind. And that is okay because as long as some other family member (usually the daughter) spends their life and free time as the parents age helping the parents to live, the other siblings can stick their head in the sand and say that of course mom and dad are well taken care of and we would never stick them in a home. Push back if you are able to.

I'm seeing this dynamic play out with my SIL and BIL. BIL is a selfish SOB who totally undervalues what SIL is doing.

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Sounds like OP will take care of them for 10 years until they become medically needy, then will end up in an expensive US nursing home, with one of them not speaking English. The dad/English speaker will probably pass first leaving the mom/non-English speaker for 10 or 15 years. At that point it will be next to impossible to get her situated in her home country, so she will spend her last years not able to talk to people.

OP, if you are the solution to the parent problem in your brother's eyes, is he planning on financially compensating you for your labor? [/quote]

I won't take money to care for my own parents.[/quote]

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