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OP, why does it not occur to you that possibly he is having cognitive issues--from normal aging, or possibly from other health issues--which should be checked out? At least to rule out any such issues?

My first thought, if my DH consistently got lost (if he wasn't always that way, or if it were worsening), plus if he left important items like wallets or keys (and again, wasn't always like that), would be: "This is a [i]change[/i] and probably needs looking at." And we'd talk about it and get him some evaluations, and a full checkup.

But your focus is on being irritated and angry with him. If you actually love him, why not see these issues as a potential sign that someone you love may be struggling in ways which might be helped? I get it, the things you describe absolutely can be objectively irritating, especially if they keep happening. But it's the "keep happening" which should push you from "I'm mad at this" to "This might be part of some bigger issue we need evaluated." I do not get spouses who simply sit and stew about behaviors and choose anger over looking for a bigger picture, especially if this is a change happening to him over time. If he's always been forgetful, etc., I'm surprised you haven't thought about whether he has untreated ADD or whatever. (And high functioning at work does [i]not[/i] mean he can't have ADD or other issues going on.)[/quote]

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