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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Depends on how you approached it.

If you just cold opened without preamble and asked straight out if he had plans to get another job, I imagine he'd be shocked and taken aback. In this case, you ATA.

If, however, you guys have had conversations about money being tight and the need to cover extra expenses, and the possibility of him getting a summer job, then it's just checking in and you ANTA.

From what you wrote I'm guessing it's the former. [/quote]

I was going to say exactly this.  He probably is exhausted with the end of year push for schools, and yes probably does need at least a little time to decompress (a week?).  However, what that means is certainly worthy of discussion.  What does he usually do during the summer?  How are things balanced during the school year?  Does he pick up more home stuff during the summer, so stuff gets done?  When do you get breaks?  Are you on the same page with your financial picture and goals, and is it clear that a couple thousand could help?  What does earning a couple thousand look like, and how does it balance with what your summers are usually like?

I'd be thinking more creatively, as a team.  Can you go into work early, and he's responsible for getting them to daycare on a more relaxed schedule in the summers?  OR maybe he picks them up early a couple of afternoons a week and does fun/educational/just hang out with dad stuff with them?  (and you either get a break or you get more hours at work).

I run the finances in our family, and i try to have regular let's sit down and go over everything meetings to set priorities and make sure my DH has a good sense of where things are - meals out was high this month, because of after school practice for the play interfering with dinner, so this next month let's relaly cut back there.  We need to have the gutters redone, let's take the money from our home repair account, and then build it back up by doing X.  We've been saving for vacation and will have enough to go, let's buy tickets this month while they are cheap....etc etc.  Maybe you all need things on paper, in black and white?   Does he see that having some extra money coming in could help?  [/quote]

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