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He doesn’t want to go or do any of the sports he played his entire life. [b]This boy has played soccer since preschool and claims he hates it. He has played golf and tennis since kindergarten and is so talented and it is like pulling teeth trying to get him to go to his expensive lessons. I have to force him to go to tennis matches and tournaments. He constantly says he is tired[/b].[/b]

We went on a few big trips in the past year and during spring break, he complained the entire time and declared he will not be going on any large international trips. He does not want to go on our three week summer vacation.

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He probably is tired -- he's playing soccer, golf, [i]and[/i] tennis?  That's a lot.  And I saw this as a parent who had a son crazy about sports and tried everything.  But not all at the same time.

And for the trips, that also seems like a lot too.  Three week summer vacation?  He probably doesn't want to be away from friends, or his home for that long.  If it was just once a year, but it sounds like your family is ripping and running constantly.  How old are your other kids?

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He is not playing soccer. He refused to play. After all those years of travel, he does not want to play.

He hasn’t said he wanted to quit tennis yet. He just finds every excuse not to go to clinic and lessons. DS has been having fits and tantrums not going to matches because he will say he didn’t have advance notice. WTF. He had been going to these matches for his entire life. We have friends whose kids work so hard at tennis and just aren’t that good. This is kid is talented and so lazy.[/quote]

You sound very angry at your son.  I get being frustrated with an adolescent who can be a pain, but it seems there really is more to this than he's just being lazy.[/quote]

I am very angry at him! It was the worst morning we have had maybe ever. This includes younger days when kids throw up or having toddler tantrums. He refused to go to school and almost made both his siblings late for school. I basically had to force him to go to school.

I remember I used to think having 2-3 young kids was hard. That was a cake walk compared to now. I remember hearing older parents say that the teen years were the most difficult. They weren’t kidding![/quote]

You need to not take it personally.  He needs help and you won't be in a position to help him if you are angry.[/quote]

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