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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m not even sure why I am posting - maybe in hopes that some of you will have some tips?

I got a divorce a few years ago and the outside world thinks I have it all together. I have a great career, great friends, a great financial situation and am very attractive.

But I have become increasingly anxious about any type of moderately social situations outside of my core friend group when it’s mostly couples, and I have no idea why I feel this way. I recognize that it makes no sense.

As part of this anxiety, I have pulled back in a lot of situations and now I am legitimately on the outside where at first it was probably just my perception. For example, I avoided all swim team parent social events the last two summers, of which there is one each week.

That turned me into an outsider in a way I wasn’t before, so the thought of going just fills me with even more dread and anxiety each year. I hate going to back to school nights.. my daughter’s softball games.. you name it.

I did start taking an antidepressant and am in therapy, but that hasn’t changed the anxiety I feel about these circumstances. I know I just need to suck it up and get over it, but I’m really struggling.

I think I just feel shameful about the divorce and I feel like such a socially awkward outsider among all of the other couples. [/quote]

Divorce isn't something to be ashamed and proud of. It's a traumatic event for whole family and y'all should see a therapist and take some time to process. However, its time to move on and live your life. Your kids need you. Just dive back in and fake it until you feel comfortable. Good luck![/quote]

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