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[quote=Anonymous]I'm American and I complain about the US all the time, but I will note that when I have lived in other countries, I've always tried to be thoughtful about not over-criticizing because of course people will take that personally or be defensive. The approach I've always taken is to try to be curious first. If there is something about the country I'm in that doesn't makes sense to me or seems obviously inferior to the US, I try to ask questions first and understand why they would do it that way, before just launching into a diatribe about how dumb it is.

It's fine to be critical, but I think most people would eventually tire of being told the country they've lived in their entire lives and were born in is inferior to another country, by someone who has *chosen* to live here instead of her country of origin.

I am guessing this dynamic is exacerbated in a marriage where he likely feels that your criticisms of the US are also criticisms of him or may express resentment towards him since he's the reason you live here.

It's just good to have some self-awareness.[/quote]

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