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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not sure if OP is a troll or not, but it definitely seems like the more narcissistic partner can have a field day manipulating the court system.  I am watching this process with my cousin and his STBX.  From the beginning she has made false allegations, filed restraining orders, and basically said and done anything she can to make his life a living hell, and there seems to be very little he can do about it.[/quote]

[b]Temporary restraining orders? Or Interim ones? Or protective orders?[/b]

The burden of proof with an actual protective order or even a temporary one is extremely high. Interim ones are up to the judgement of the officer that takes the complaint and can be biased because only one side is presenting evidence.

Don’t assume that just because you get along with the accused but he seems nice enough that he isn’t guilty. [/quote]

Probably an interim order- with all of the delays, it lasted almost 9 months.  So it was nine months my cousin couldn’t see his kids without a court appointed supervisor and didn’t have access to his own house.

When the court date finally came the judge told the STBX she had lost her credibility because of the numerous texts she sent my cousin trying to get back together, trying to get money, and all of the times she showed up at his Airbnb harassing him.  Not exactly what you do when you are fearful.  So that was thrown out and she just filed for ANOTHER protective order/restraining order against the judge’s recommendation.  She is also on her second or third lawyer.

My cousin actually isn’t that great and I don’t know what kind of husband he was but this woman is a complete psycho.  She goes back and forth between texting him about what a monster and terrible husband/father he is and how she would like to get back together so that she can go to school and become a clinical psychologist (throughout their 10 year marriage she declined to work and was always “studying” for a new career, she was going to med school, then veterinary school, etc.).  I don’t think my cousin is a dream man (although he is a high earner) but this woman is mentally ill.[/quote]

I’m not a lawyer, but I am not aware of a state in which an interim one doesn’t expire after a week. You don’t have all the information, PP.[/quote]

Different poster here. An interim order typically lasts "until the next court date". When I had a temporary order (in another state), it was extended "to the next court date" many times. I think a year after all was said and done. The next court date would come, no evidence would be presented, there was discussion among lawyers, I would refuse to release the temp order until trial, so it was extended "to the next court date". Multiple times. I was always given a copy to carry indicating its "new" expiration date in case I needed to call the police to report a violation. After I received the temporary order, the custody court dates and protective order court dates were always on the same dates, same file, because both were issued by the family court (again, not in VA, I do not know the process in VA).

I kept it in place until all of our custody disputes were resolved, and by then we'd had a year of "good behavior" (no threatening, harassing, violent behavior) so I would not have gotten a "permanent" order anyway (permanent orders last usually 1-2 years).

Now - in my situation, my ex was NEVER abusive towards our shared child. So the Temp order was ONLY in regards to my ex's behavior TOWARD ME. It did not limit visitation. I can see if a protective order limited visitation that judges would be hesitant to extend longer than necessary.[/quote]

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