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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel your pain! Recently got out of my marriage as this was a big issue. Not saying it’s hopeless, but your husband has some healing to do and if he’s not ready, you can’t fix him. He acts this way because of childhood trauma. If you’re like me, my husband’s avoidant attachment triggered my anxious attachment and it was a hamster wheel of constant stress and unhappiness for both of us. It wasn’t until I started my own healing as to why I settled for this type of relationship in the first place! Good luck!

Check out awakeningwithbrian on instagram as that would have saved me so much time and frustration![/quote]

Op here. I think if I insist, DH will go to individual therapy. But I feel like it won’t help. [b]When I’ve tried to talk to him about the issue, he says he sees no problem.[/b] I worry he wouldn’t be genuine in therapy just like he’s not genuine in any context in his life ever anywhere. Like he will just go to therapy and make up nonsense to make the therapist think all is well.[/quote]

This sounds psychotic and he has some serious mental disorders. Get out. Or you’ll go insane too. [/quote]

OP, I think you know this situation has evolved into a tipping point for your marriage. If you want out, and I’m thinking you do, lawyer up and start planning.

If he’s actually a guy hiding a personality disorder, and you’re going to find out the hard way no matter, act YESTERDAY. Talk to friends and family honestly about what’s up before he gets a chance to start the victimhood and smear campaign.

Trust me, it’s going to be difficult and expensive but you’re buying back the rest of your life. [/quote]

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