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[quote=Anonymous]I lived in Afghanistan and in Iraq during IS.  If they are going for a job there should be a security person they can talk with.  Their organization just won't send them willy nilly.  If they are going on their own, they should do research before moving.  They shouldn't be dumb.  Don't be open that you're an American, be respectful of the country, people, and culture. Don't go to the same places everyday, don't go to and from home the same way. Make local friends.  Try and learn the language.

In Iraq I was based in Erbil and lived in an apartment, walked around, went to the store, etc, on my own.  Another person in the building had let their residency permit lapse or something and the Asayish (the kurdish security services) were there right away.  They knew what was up.  I was never harassed in Iraq (was in Afghanistan and have been plenty of times in the USA).

I wouldn't have moved there if I had kids.  Also, make sure your sibling gets medicine and things if they don't have in the country. Many organizations will give you a kit with medication or see a travel doctor.  I also recommend advil, imodium,electrolyte packets.  I got migraines in the summer because it was so hot, so I came back to the US and got migraine medicine.

Anything you might not be able to find there just bring in case. If they have dengue or malaria get that sorted too and bring big repellant, etc. Update your vaccines.

America is also unsafe.  My family was freaking out both times (I lived in both countries for years) and I read an article that Chicago had more deaths during a period I lived overseas.  You can go to the mall in America and be killed.

If you're worried have some sort of safe phrase like have them ask how your dog is doing and you don't own a dog.  Ask them to email you or contact you once a week or something.  I constantly contacted my family because it made them feel better.  Or ask to be part of the family find my phone group or something and say you'll only use it for emergencies.

Have you asked your sibling about the move?  Is it for a job or are they just moving there?  Ask and don't be judgmental about it.  Do they have a will and things written down in case there is an emergency?  Do they have emergency insurance through their job or paid for themselves if they need to fly back to the US for medical care?  What is their medical insurance like?  Do they need kidnapping insurance?  Again, if they are going for a job, the job will have this all set up.

You can only control yourself.  Worrying doesn't help anyone. [/quote]

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