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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not to sound rude, but if it's not your "fault," then who's is it? I know it's hurtful to hear, but only you control getting that job. It sounds like you hit a wall and maybe slacked off on applying. Listen, I get it, if I got let go, I would have an impossible time finding a job, so I feel for you. But nonetheless, it's still on you, so he's not wrong. He may be a jerk, but he's not wrong.[/quote]

100%.  Also, turn this around.  How about you feel if he lost his job and he's still unable to find another one?  Would you be so comforting or would you be a little annoyed thinking "Why aren't you trying harder"?

Something to consider. [/quote]
6 years ago, he changed jobs. He didn't lose a job, but he was miserable in his job and looking to leave. It took him 6 months to find something and I was supportive through that whole process. I didn't criticize him for the process taking so long and he didn't get a ton of interviews either. He ended up getting two interviews around the same time as each other, was offered both, and chose one. He actually considered staying at the horrible job he hated, because the job he got didn't pay as much as he wanted and we had to have a whole conversation about quality of life and the value of a positive work environment. The only difference between his situation then and my situation now was that his job wasn't "expiring" like mine is. I understand that that's an added stressor in this case. We've looked at our finances and already cut back where we can and we'll be ok for 6 months to a year (if it comes to that) before we would need help.[/quote]

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