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[quote=Anonymous]My kid is still young so I may yet screw this up. But as a "successful" adult with a close relationship with my two well adjusted adult siblings I can tell you this.   
first, my parents definitely were NOT super parents by any stretch, too young with kids, mom very immature etc.
However:
--we ate dinner together every single night without fail.

--we all had chores to do everyday, no exceptions, non negotiable.  everyone is part of the house and everyone contributes

--lots of free time to play without any adult supervision or organized playdates (this was the  late 70s and early 80s), I know times have changed but I really think this had the biggest impact on learning to solve problems, manage our time, get along with others.

--no crazy competitive activities (travel teams used to truly only be for the best of the best), just a chance to explore different things on our level.

--Strong support network of neighborhood families.

--Lots of family reunions, playing with cousins, visiting grandparents. I used to loathe reunions as a kid because I was very shy. As an adult now, I am very close to many aunts and uncles and have friendship relationships with them., also close with many second and third cousins,  this foundation is very grounding for kids.  It's good to know you are part of something bigger than yourself.

--my parents encouraged us to get part time jobs whether babysitting in middle school or afterschool jobs in high school.  We can outwork anyone and have more hustle than most adults I know.

But honestly, sometimes it's just beyond a parents control.  I am one of three but we are all so different in personality and temperament it's hard to believe we are related but I think the things I listed were the shared foundation.  [/quote]

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