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[quote=Anonymous]I was 33, 36 and 41. Pregnant easily and fast with each kid. One miscarriage in between kid 2 and 3. Married 8 years before trying. Didn't think we wanted kids and then changed our minds...so we had a lot of "just us" time in our 20s and early 30s. Thought I was happy with two but then at 41 decided to try for a girl (and got her).

I wish I were younger, if only so I could have more years with my children on this Earth. That said...the thought of being an empty nester by 50 sounds sad to me. I feel happy knowing I'll still have a child in my house when I'm pushing 60. I'm sure that sounds sad to others! But for me, when I hear friends around my age talking about their kids leaving for college, I feel this tightening in my chest...I am not anywhere near ready for that! Still have 4 years to go for my oldest. Empty nest doesn't appeal to me. Maybe by the time I get there I'll be ready. I had zero desire for children and didn't even like kids when I was young; something transformed inside me the moment my first baby was born. And these kids became my reason for being!

The positive about having my kids later is that we are in A+ financial shape. HHI just crossed seven figures this year, so we can afford a wonderful life with our family of 5. Lots of travel, activities, country club membership where we do lots of fun things together...zero money stress. Even when the first baby was born we felt stress with day care costs, diapers, etc. By the time baby #3 came I went wild decorating the nursery, buying every girly outfit I'd been wanting to buy for years. College is covered for all three. Not sure my career trajectory would have been as lucrative had I had children sooner. I really ground it out at work in my 20s and now in my 40s I'm reaping the benefits of a high income and a lot of flexibility (finance).

If money were a non-issue, I wish I'd have had all my kids about 5 years earlier. I take care of myself and people act surprised when they hear my age, but man, when I see the other preschool moms who are a good 10-15 years younger than I am, I think, damn. I hope I don't look like a granny by the time my girl is in middle school. [/quote]

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