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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As someone who grew up with very strict parents, yes they can maintain friendships. I did it by doing a TON of lying and sneaking around. [/quote]

This!!

[b]And you are never going to be the house the kids go over to or ever get the inside scoop from. [/b]

But I guess what part is strict? Like I allow my kids to date, go to parties, have sleepovers, have friends over, etc… but I also do this to keep an eye on them, check for drinking/drugs etc…  I am not the cool parent that supplies underage teens with things or turns a blind eye. [/quote]

This isn't necessarily true. My parents were, to many of my friends, the "strict" parents. No parties unless they had talked to the other parents and confirmed they'd be home. Checking in required so they knew were we were, and they had to sign off on deviations from the original plan. No giving rides to other teens without permission (back in the days when there weren't graduated licenses). The sort of thing that is really just good parenting but is often perceived as strict.

They were also, however, always willing to host our friends, to provide all the good snacks, to rent endless movies, etc.. One example - they hosted a post-prom party at our house and hired a company to come in and do casino games with prizes. They also supervised closely and (successfully) barred alcohol. After a couple of years of doing it they had kids they'd never met showing up because they'd heard it was so much fun. But they worked at it, and were generally fantastic and involved parents.[/quote]

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