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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you’re interested, what’s the harm, really? I man, it’s already at “no”, so what’s the worst that can happen?

I get the socialization thing, but if women truly want egalitarian relationships, they need to start as they intend to continue. Sounds like there was mutual interest.

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But he said in his last text "he could reach out". And he didn't despite checking out my profile again. Maybe he's not interested enough. He definitely has time to text all other women onlline[/quote]

He's interested enough if you offer sex. Is that what you want?

I am the same in getting emotionally attached. Knowing that I am up front about wanting a relationship and only having sex in the context of being exclusive with someone who potentially wants more. I will hook up and do other things so we know if there is chemistry. But I'm looking for someone who is serious and who sees me as a potential partner. If he doesn't really value the rest of what I bring and sex itself is a dealbreaker I doubt we will be compatible. There are a lot of personal qualities that I'm looking for in a man, why lower my bar and be unhappy?[/quote]

So what do you suggest: hook up with him once, to show I'm ok physically and (presuming he wants to continue) ask for exclusivity/stop seeing others if he wants to try build something with me? [/quote]
Whatever you do, do NOT do this. Why do you want to prove that you’re “ok physically”, or think you need to do that in order to receive exclusivity.

Work on your self esteem first, and then find a man who wants exclusivity with you because that’s what he is looking for.[/quote]

OP here - yes, I don’t think honestly I would be able to O if I know the man is sleeping with many others. That would be a total act of showing non-conditional affection on my end, leaving him with all the cards. I never placed myself in such position of weakness or had one-off thing, but he’s too attractive to pass. 
He also might be reluctant to become exclusive prior to us even being physical. Don’t you think it’s fair ? 
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I think I recognize this person’s writing style…[/quote]

Same! [/quote]

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