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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe it's different for boys but my DD13 is one of the top students, if not the top. If she isn't, people generally think she is. This is not a school with lots of impressive, striving kids. She does well socially. She is also involved in several extracurriculars. Maybe that helps.

I would hesitate to label his social issues as a result of his intelligence. Think about what else it could be. How does he act? How does he treat others? My kid is far from perfect, but she's easy to get along with and very confident. If someone comes up to her and says, x is mad at you or y has a crush on you, or whatever. She's basically like, cool. She doesn't feed into any drama. Consider how your son might be interacting. [/quote]

I wouldn't say the social issues are his. He's funny and fits in well from what we can see and what his teacher claims. But he's got a thin skin, for sure, and a lot of stories he relates to us are more teasing than bullying, imo. So, what I'm really wondering is when the [i]teasing [/i]ends and everyone will leave him alone.[/quote]

Thanks for the additional context, OP. I think the best course of action is to assume the teasing will never end, and help your son get a thicker skin. I totally understand this is easier said than done. He's still very young so it will improve as he gets older, naturally, I think. Encourage him to understand that it really doesn't matter what people say, he should know who he is. Does he have good friends who care about him, whom he enjoys spending time with? Definitely nurture those positive relationships. Also encourages interest in other activities that make him happy.[/quote]

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