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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Being smart is never a liability. It is how well you get along with others.

I have a very smart athletic introvert. He is humble and never brags about anything. He has always had a great group of smart friends.

BIL was valedictorian of his school and then graduated top of his class for undergrad and med school. [b]He is and has alway been a know it all and socially awkward. I don’t think he has a lot of friends. Even to his nieces and nephews, he has an obnoxious know it all attitude. [/b]DH always tells him to tone it down. BIL is smart, attractive and earns millions and can’t seem to date well either.

My point is your child being smart should never be a liability. I was a shy smart kid. I never had problems making friends. I ended up at Harvard. I’m not sure I come off smart. I have always downplayed how smart I was.[/quote]

Yes.  I have kids at two different "Big3" private schools.  Being smart is social gold unless you're a braggart about it. 
The kids who are braggarts (and there aren't many) are generally kids who don't have good social skills or who are neuroatypical and struggle to relate so they compensate by being braggarts or know-it-alls or whatnot.  I'm sure they don't mean to be jerks.  They chronically can't relate so they develop ways of seeming relevant or getting air time in social situations that ultimately hurt themselves.  [/quote]

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