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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why do you care about the ILs’ reaction if you and the kids take some downtime? If they make a comment, explain directly and without apologizing. It’s just the way things are at your house. They are guests but it’s not a command performance, and it’s not “rude” to have some time to yourself or time doing other things besides sitting in a circle chatting. If they ask your daughter where she was when she went to the bathroom, you should jump in and say, “oh, the kids come in and out. I’m sure she wasn’t up to something nefarious! Ha ha!” Say something along these lines in a light tone, and you will be signaling that they shouldn’t interrogate your daughter about her ten-minute disappearance, your jokey non-response signals to them that it’s not really their business to monitor her so closely in her own home, and your daughter will get the sense you’ve got her back and it’s ok not to stand in constant attendance to your ILs. Also, the term “power nap” is a great way to excuse yourself for a bit.

Basically, stop worrying about the ILs’ reactions to how you want to act during their visits. You’re not their employee, it’s your home, and model behavior for your kids. [/quote]
DP. I like this approach. Also DH needs to also defend you all.[/quote]

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