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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, she has recently started working, about a week. She talks about taking revenge if we ask her to leave, she says she knows lots of bad people and will cause trouble if she is forced to leave. We are trapped.[/quote]

21 year olds think they have more power than they actually do. It’s highly unlikely that she has people.

I am the parent of a mentally ill child who has abused drugs and probably still does weed. Here is one of the most important things I’ve learned.

Figure out what your line in the sand is. In other words don’t ever make an empty threat. If you’re not going to make your kid leave for using weed in your house then ignore weed use in your house. You cannot be wishy washy at all.

You also need to know that you may have to evict your own child even though you own the house and they don’t pay you rent. But if you have grounds for a restraining order and you have the stomach and chops to do it, by the time it expires, the eviction will have occurred if you time things right.

If you put your child out, make sure you know your conditions for them returning and then have a zero tolerance policy.

I turned around my very violent and troubled child. It wasn’t easy but I never wavered. I drew my line in the sand. I put my child out. I involved the court system. I cried a lot but I never moved my line. When my child was ready to come home, I made them set conditions and did not allow their return until the conditions were acceptable to me. I did not pay for a single thing while they were gone even knowing that a homeless shelter might be the result. And I have not wavered for a second on my zero tolerance policy now that they are home.

And before we got here, I paid for all sorts of therapy and treatment. But still we ended up here.

Good luck to you.

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