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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Spend that money on a hobby. Get him out of the house more. If he’s still walking you’re doing well, keep it that way. [/quote]

He's barely walking - can only stand for a couple of minutes. His hobbies are attending theater, watching the History Channel, watching CNN and complaining about Trump. He also goes out to restaurants with my stepmom and their small group of friends. He goes to church with my stepmom but won't join "groups" - was never his thing. He was a lifelong boater on the Great Lakes but had to sell their boat a couple of years ago due to his health issues. It is what it is - he's not going to develop a new hobby at this stage of his life.

Ultimately since my stepmom controls access and will be the one that has to deal with the consequences it's her decision along with my dad.[/quote]

Would strongly suggest Al Anon for her, there are online meetings and a helpful Reddit sub. https://www.reddit.com/r/AlAnon/

For you, https://adultchildren.org/

Unpacking how his alcoholism has impacted you, then and now is worthwhile, not only for your own quality of life but to prevent more complex grief when he passes.

When he goes out with the friend group does he drink then?

Going to the theater seems like a much better place to spend the money.

Like the old saying goes, 100 drinks is never enough and 1 is too many. Having it in the house and trying to ration it will be a recipe for unending conflict. [/quote]

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