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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is something that a lot of us go through very early on, but hopefully you’ll get over it.  If you’re still feeling these feelings after a while I suggest a competetent and compassionate therapist.

[b]It’s more than 5%[/b] and there’s nothing you can do about it other than, eventually, accept it.  And you don’t have to hide.[/quote]

I wish!

5% of the adult male population being gay seems generous to me. Does seem higher in DC but the dating pool is still extremely small.

You are always going to be "not normal" and just need to deal with it, no matter how kind people are. Yes, it's annoying, yes it is tiresome, but nothing is going to change for you and society also isn't changing. In this day and age single gays have more in common with single straights than to married gays, but as the vast majority are still single.... it's the singles penalty for life. [/quote]

It’s perfectly normal to be gay. Just because something is uncommon doesn’t mean it’s not normal. It’s normal to have red hair, but uncommon.[/quote]

No, it's not normal to be gay. Just because you're accepted and treated "normally" doesn't mean it's normal to be gay. Gays and lesbians are a very small minority, which by default means they are not normal. You are redefining the meaning of normal. Same with red hair, it's not normal to have it even if they are still a presence.

We also exist in a world that is designed around the most common denominator: straight people and especially straight people who go on to marry and have children. Although recent social and political changes have given gays and lesbians greater access to this common denominator, most still exist outside it. I'm 42 and virtually no gay man or lesbian I've met across my life has ever felt "normal" because we do see and feel the exclusions all the time. It doesn't matter what some progressive "allied to LGTBT+" teacher in a school pretends, this is just the reality. No straight person has ever wondered why they are straight but every single gay and lesbian has and usually still continues to wonder why they are gay/lesbian. And that tells you what you need to know about reality. We're aware we are not.... "normal." It doesn't mean we think we're dysfunctional or terrible, we're just not "normal."

But it is what it is and it is not going to change. The social, cultural and political weight gravitates enormously to the common denominator and those who don't fit it will always be outside it to some extent. 
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