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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As someone who stayed at home from 0 - 8 with my oldest and 0 - 5 for my youngest, then returned to work, then faced a crisis that required me to stay home (a cancer type diagnosis in one of my kids), I regretted staying home earlier because it made finding the resources to do so later really stressful.

I also regretted that staying home early set up a dynamic where I did everything and DH provided.  When that dynamic should have changed because I went back to work, it didn't and I ended up doing everything.  Later, when health needs were overwhelming and it had to change, it still didn't and our family shattered.

I loved being home with my kids, and yet I wouldn't make the choice to stay home with healthy kids again, if it meant sacrificing work life balance for my DH, and/or long term savings. [/quote]

Agree. The opinions here are all over the board, but in my opinion, the best setup is to work until your oldest is at least 10, and when you have a lot of money saved for retirement and fully funded their college accounts, then "retire" to be with them through their teen years.  The younger years are the easiest to outsource.  By the time your oldest is in elementary school, you should be in a position in your career where you can make demands, like reduced hours and WFH.  By middle school, if you've done well, then retire to be a full-time SAHP with financial security.  [/quote]

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