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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think it's hard if you put in effort each day. It's like keeping your room clean - if you tidy for 5 minutes in the morning and 5 minutes before bed, your bedroom never gets too messy. But if you don't invest that time and effort, it becomes a HUGE, overwhelming mess.[/quote]

This is a great way to think about it. We've been married almost 15 years but we don't let things fester. We spend time together, we listen to each other, and we make sure the other is getting what they need. It's not often hard. Sometimes we will fight and for a few hours things will be tough but then we get to the other side.

Do you find friendships also hard? I've had some close friends for many decades and I've learned that the same rules apply - let the little things go and address the big stuff. No one is perfect and everyone can be annoying but I don't feel like the relationships with those I am close to are very hard.

I do, however, have challenging relationships with people that I have to have in my life but wouldn't chose to if given an option. Those people I generally have communication issues with and they often have issues with many other people so I don't think it's me. I try my best and do what I can to make things pleasant but I also don't have particularly high expectations where they are concerned. It's more enjoy when I can and survive the rest of the time. I would be sad to be married to someone that I felt that way about. [/quote]

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